Jul 11 2012
Well, I’m going to sing on stage in less than a couple of weeks (20th July), at the UpFront Club, and I wanted to share with you some of the key understandings I have gained in relation to how to sing on stage with confidence, or stage performance confidence, instead of freezing up like a cold fish out of water..
Have you ever felt like this.. nervous, anxious
You know, the first time I went on stage I could barely look at the audience. I was so nervous, my voice was quivering like an opera singer.
The vibrato in my voice gets really intense when I’ve been nervous in the past. So I desperately wanted to be able to relax on stage. Be “chill”.
At first I didn’t know how I’d ever get to the stage of being relaxed and at ease on stage, but I kept going back. Like the old saying, ‘get back up on that horse after you’ve been thrown, so fear doesn’t set in’.
However, there is a way to ease your nerves and anxiousness a lot quicker than I did.
How eating can affect your ability to perform..
Before I get into that though, let me tell you about how my nerves and anxiety really blocked up the fullness of my voice when singing. This is why I make it a rule not to eat at least an hour before singing or performing.
When I used to eat before singing, I’d be so nervous that I’d get blocked up with wind. This is so embarrassing.. but I’ll tell you anyway.
Sometimes I’d be burping up gas like there was no tomorrow, and having to squat at times (yoga poses work too) to release the gas that was blocked up deep in my belly. Talk about gross.
Deep Belly Breathing for Freeing up your voice..
The only thing that would work to clear my system up was deep belly breathing. I’d start singing before a performance and realize that my belly was tight. So I’d keep singing and breathing deeply, and the wind would rise and be released.
Otherwise my voice would be tiny and weak. And it’s hard to concentrate when you’re suffering a belly ache. That doesn’t exactly help with being confident on stage either.
What can you do to release you nerves and anxiety easily and instead, gain stage performance confidence?
Anxiety and nerves are generally tied up with conditioned programmings, thoughts, expectations, attitudes, decisions and beliefs which you have bought into throughout your life and beyond.
By letting go of these, you naturally free yourself up for your true nature to shine. And the ultimate true nature of anyone of you is fearless. Fearless, free of inhibitions, and comes packaged with knowing! Does a fearless, uninhibited, knowing being have confidence issues?
“Ask and it shall be done”
A lot of people spend their lives trying to improve themselves and release fears… What makes me think that I have an answer for you?
That’s just it! I don’t have an answer for you. Though I do have some possibilities. These possibilities include leaving yourself open to the possibilities in your life.
Ask yourself.. – By asking yourself, you are not seeking an answer, you are allowing the possibilities to unfold in your life. -
What will it take for me to sing on stage with confidence?
What will it take for to enjoy singing on stage, dazzling and engaging the audience with my Awesome performance?
What vibrational energy can I become that will allow me to sing on stage with absolute confidence, alacrity and aplomb?
Everything that that brings up, delete, uncreate and destory all of it..
Ask these questions, and similar, over and over again to yourself, until the possibilities show up in your life. I dare you to try it and not just say you will, or say that it could work. Actually do the exercise and discover for yourself whether there is some truth in what I’m saying right now.
7 Steps in Stage Performance Confidence
Some of the possibilities that opened up for me have greatly eased my singing experience on stage..
They could work for you too, are:
- Ten to thirty minutes before getting on stage, focus yourself on being calm and in the right space for singing from your heart.
- Take some time to sing before getting on stage. Let your deep belly breathing kick in if not already there. You’ll be relaxed and focused if you remember to breathe.
- Drink lots of liquid and enjoy yourself
- Be accepting and calm with ‘mistakes’. If you’re performing with a band, allow them to pick up and follow you. Simply move on. Most of the time if you stay calm and accepting of the ‘mistake’ and have fun with it, the audience won’t even realize you’ve made a ‘mistake’.. And if they do, then they’ll be more accepting of it if you are too.
- Relax and be yourself. The more uniquely you are you, the more you enjoy yourself and the more the audience enjoys you. Express what you feel for music, or the song and the lyrics into your singing and your actions.
- Focus yourself on the performance and your audience, not on yourself. Your aim is to get each and every person in the audience to feel like they’re special and appreciated.
- By connecting and engaging with everyone in the audience, it actually helps you feel less nervous. You’re actually gaining their input then, not trying to hide from them. Let yourself shine!
Feel free to share your experiences or questions with stage performance confidence.. Add your input below..
What will it take for you to shine on stage?
What will it take for you to love performance and all that it involves?